100+ flirty texts for long-term couples (that don't feel cringe).
If you want to flirt again but your brain goes blank (or everything sounds cheesy), start here.
These are low-pressure texts that actually work for real couples: sweet, playful, romantic, appreciative, spicy, and more.
Written by the Couples Flirt team, a real couple building tools to help partners stay connected.
Adults (18+) only. Consent-first. If your partner isn't in the mood, you'll see "easy response" options that keep things safe.
TL;DR: 100+ Flirty Texts by Category
Sweet: "You're my favorite person. That's the whole message."
Playful: "If you were here right now, I'd challenge you to a staring contest. You'd lose."
Romantic: "I still get excited when I see your name on my phone."
Appreciative: "I don't tell you enough how much I love being your person."
Spicy: "I keep thinking about last night. Can we do that again soon?"
Anticipation: "I have plans for us tonight. You'll find out when you get home."
Reconnecting: "Can we reset? I want us."
Pro tip: Match the mood to your partner's energy, and add personal details to make it yours
What are the best flirty texts to send your partner?
The best flirty texts for long-term couples are simple, genuine, and easy to respond to. Skip elaborate pickup lines. What works is warmth and playfulness that fits your relationship. Here are proven examples:
Sweet: "Just thinking about you. That's the whole message."
Playful: "You looked really good this morning. Thought you should know."
Romantic: "I still get excited when I see your name on my phone."
Appreciative: "I noticed you did [specific thing]. I see you. Thank you."
Spicy: "Can't stop thinking about last night... and also what's for dinner."
Anticipation: "I have plans for us tonight. You'll find out when you get home."
Reconnecting: "Hey. I like you. Just wanted you to know."
How to use this list (so it actually works)
2 minutes
Pick a lane: sweet, playful, romantic, appreciative, spicy, or reconnecting.
Match their energy: Sweet/appreciative for low energy, playful when things are light, spicier when warmth is already present.
Start smaller than you think: One message is enough.
Personalize it: Add specific details, inside jokes, or pet names.
Make it easy to respond: Include "Heart is fine" when you're unsure.
Don't punish neutral: If they're tired, try again tomorrow.
"Quick question: when did you get this attractive?"
"I'm filing a complaint: you're distracting."
"I'm flirting with you. Please respond accordingly."
"I miss you. Annoyingly."
"If I steal a kiss later, will you press charges?"
"I dare you to be extra cute when you see me."
"Meet me in the kitchen in 10 minutes. (For a hug.)"
"Warning: I plan to flirt with you later."
"You're my favorite notification."
"You're my favorite distraction."
"Tell me one thing you want tonight: sweet, playful, or quiet."
"If you were here right now, I'd challenge you to a staring contest. You'd lose."
"I was going to play it cool and not text you first, but here we are."
"I tried to think of something smooth to say and failed. So... hi, you're cute."
"Thinking about you. Also thinking about pizza. You're winning, but it's close."
Romantic (heartfelt)
"I still get excited when I see your name on my phone."
"You're the first person I want to tell good news to and the first person I want when things are hard."
"I was just thinking about how lucky I am that you chose me."
"Every love song makes more sense since I met you."
"I don't know what I did to deserve you, but I'm grateful every day."
"You make ordinary days feel special just by being in them."
"I love the person I am when I'm with you."
"Home isn't a place for me. It's wherever you are."
"I could have a hundred bad things happen today and seeing you would still make it good."
"You're my favorite part of every day. Even the hard ones."
"I'm still falling for you. Every single day."
"Loving you is the easiest and best thing I've ever done."
Appreciation (that actually lands)
"I noticed you handled that really well today."
"Thank you for being you. Seriously."
"You make our life better in ways you don't see."
"I love how your brain works."
"I feel lucky I get to be on your team."
"You were steady today. I felt that."
"You're attractive, and not just physically."
"I trust you. And I don't say that lightly."
"You show up for us in a thousand small ways."
"I'm proud of the person you're becoming."
"You make me feel safe."
"I'd choose you again."
"I don't tell you enough how much I love being your person."
"The way you love me makes me want to be better."
"You believed in me when I didn't believe in myself. That changed everything."
A little spicier (still tasteful)
"I keep thinking about being close to you later."
"I want you. Not urgently, just honestly."
"Save a little attention for me tonight."
"When you're ready, I'd love a slow, real kiss."
"I'm in the mood for you. No pressure."
"I want to flirt with you in person later."
"Tonight: your pace. But I want closeness."
"I'm saving my best attention for you."
"I want a kiss that lasts longer than 'hello'."
"I keep thinking about last night. Can we do that again soon?"
"You have no idea what you do to me."
"Is it weird that I find you more attractive now than when we first met?"
"You looked really good this morning. I should have told you before you left."
"Fair warning: When you get home, I'm not letting you go."
"I'm counting down the hours until I can get you alone."
Anticipation (build excitement)
"I have plans for us tonight. You'll find out when you get home."
"I booked something for this weekend. It's a surprise. Be excited."
"Tonight: You, me, and zero responsibilities. I'm already looking forward to it."
"I'm planning something for you. All you have to do is show up."
"Can't wait to see you later. I've been thinking about it all day."
"I have a surprise for you when you get home. No hints."
"Just wait until you see what I have in mind for date night."
"Tonight is going to be fun. Trust me."
"Get ready to be spoiled this weekend."
"I've been looking forward to seeing you all week. Almost there."
"I ordered your favorite. It'll be ready when you get home."
"Clear your schedule Saturday night. You're mine."
"Something good is going to happen today. That something is us, later."
Reconnect after a weird day
"Can we reset? I want us."
"I'm a little fried. Can we just be close later?"
"You and me. Same team. Always."
"If I was short earlier, I'm sorry. I'm choosing you now."
"Can I have a hug that lasts a few seconds longer?"
"I want to end the day with you, not the stress."
"No fixing tonight. Just us."
"I still like you. Even on weird days."
"Can we be gentle with each other tonight?"
"I'm here. I'm on your side."
Easy-response texts (safe when you're unsure)
"No reply needed. Just wanted you to know."
"Send me a heart if this lands."
"If now's not a good time, reply 'later.' Zero pressure."
"Reply with 'yes' and I'll plan something small."
"Sweet, playful, or quiet today?"
"Can I borrow 2 minutes of your attention tonight?"
"I'm flirting. You can respond with a smile later."
"If you're tired, we can just cuddle."
"Tell me your capacity: 10%, 50%, or 100%?"
"I'm on your side. That's all."
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Tips for making these your own
Personalize
Add specific details: "You looked amazing this morning" becomes "You looked amazing in that blue shirt this morning." Specificity shows you're paying attention.
Use their name or your pet name: Something about seeing their name or a private nickname makes a text feel more intimate.
Reference inside jokes: Only you two get it. That's what makes it special.
Time it well: A flirty text during a boring meeting hits different than one at 2 AM.
Match their energy: If they're in a playful mood, go playful. If they've had a hard day, go appreciative or reconnecting.
Don't overdo it: A few thoughtful texts beat a dozen generic ones. Quality over quantity.
Follow through: If you build anticipation, deliver. Don't promise plans you won't make.
If your partner doesn't respond (or responds flat)
Normal
A neutral response usually means they're busy, tired, or out of practice, not that they rejected you.
The move is to lower pressure, not escalate.
Don't punish silence: No sarcasm, no withdrawal.
Try "warmth" texts: Sweet/appreciative before bold.
Use easy-response prompts: "Heart if this lands."
Repeat beats intensity: Try again tomorrow.
Ask directly: "Do you like when I send you flirty messages?" Some people aren't natural texters.
Choose based on your partner's likely capacity today: sweet/appreciative for low energy, playful when things are light, bolder when warmth is already present.
What if flirting feels awkward for us?
That's normal if it's been a while. Start with one low-risk message and repeat it a few days in a row. Awkwardness fades fast when there's no pressure attached.
Is it okay to flirt if we're not having much sex lately?
Yes. Flirting doesn't have to be sexual. Warmth and play often help couples rebuild safety and closeness first, and desire can follow naturally.
How often should I send flirty texts?
A few times a week keeps the connection alive without feeling forced. The key is authenticity over quantity. One genuine flirty text beats five generic ones.
What if my partner doesn't respond?
Some people aren't natural texters. Don't take a lukewarm response personally. Pay attention to how they show affection in other ways. You can also ask directly: "Do you like when I send you flirty messages?"
How do I personalize these texts?
Add specific details about your partner or your relationship. "You looked amazing this morning" becomes more personal as "You looked amazing in that blue shirt this morning." Inside jokes and pet names make generic texts feel intimate.
