Communicate Boundaries Without Awkwardness
An 18-question assessment covering emotional safety, environment, pace, and touch. Share what you need, see where you align, and identify topics that need discussion, all without uncomfortable conversations.
TL;DR
- 18 questions across 3 phases (emotional, environmental, physical)
- 4 answer types: must-have, needs-discussion, not-my-need, must-avoid
- See partner comparison ("blueprint") after both complete
- Discussion notes for items marked "needs-discussion"
- Fully encrypted, only you and your partner see results
How It Helps
- Traffic Light System — Green (yes), yellow (maybe), red (no) for clear communication.
- Discussion Prompts — Guided questions help navigate sensitive topics together.
- Update Anytime — Boundaries can change. Update without awkward conversations.
- Build Trust — Clear boundaries create safety for deeper connection.
The 3 Phases
Emotional Safety
What emotional conditions help you feel safe and present. Connection, reassurance, mood.
Environment & Sensory
Physical surroundings that affect your comfort. Lighting, sounds, privacy, temperature.
Pace, Touch & Sovereignty
How you prefer physical interaction. Speed, types of touch, control, boundaries.
Answer Types
This is essential for me. I need this to feel comfortable and present.
I'm not sure or it depends. I'd like to talk about this together.
This isn't important to me, but I'm neutral about it.
This is a hard boundary. Please don't do this.
Partner Blueprint
Once both partners complete the assessment, you can view your Greenlight Blueprint, a side-by-side comparison showing:
- Green matches: You both agree this is important
- Yellow flags: One of you marked "needs discussion"
- Red flags: One needs what the other avoids (requires conversation)
- Neutral zones: Neither of you feel strongly
Discussion Notes
Helpful featureFor items marked "needs discussion", you can add notes about why you're unsure or what context matters. These notes are shared with your partner in the blueprint view, giving you a starting point for conversation.
Common Questions
How long does it take?
About 5-10 minutes. 18 questions total, and you can pause and resume anytime.
Can I change my answers later?
Yes. Your needs may evolve. You can retake or update individual answers anytime.
What if we have a red flag (conflicting needs)?
That's valuable information! The blueprint highlights these so you can have an honest conversation. Many couples discover misalignments they never knew about.
Start communicating better
Coming soon to iOS & Android.