Words are only part of flirting. Your body is constantly communicating attraction, interest, and desire. This guide shows you how to flirt non-verbally with your partner, whether you're across the room or inches away.
Last updated: January 2026
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Research suggests that 60-90% of communication is non-verbal. Your body is constantly sending signals to your partner, whether you intend to or not. The question is whether those signals say "I'm attracted to you" or "I'm not paying attention."
In long-term relationships, body language often fades into neutral or negative patterns. You stop making eye contact. You sit on opposite ends of the couch. Physical touch becomes rare. Your body language says "roommate," not "lover."
The good news: Body language can be changed intentionally. Small shifts in how you position yourself, where you look, and how you touch can reignite the physical tension that makes relationships exciting.
The signal: Eyes are the most powerful tool for non-verbal flirting. Sustained eye contact creates intimacy and signals interest.
How to do it:
Try this: Next time you're in a crowded room together, find their eyes and hold the gaze until one of you smiles.
The signal: Touch moves flirting from visual to physical. Light, intentional touches communicate interest and create connection.
How to do it:
Key principle: Touch should feel deliberate but natural. If it feels awkward, you might be trying too hard.
The signal: How close you stand or sit, and which direction you face, communicates interest. We orient ourselves toward what interests us.
How to do it:
Watch for: If you're unconsciously creating distance (sitting far, facing away, leaning back), your body is sending signals you might not intend.
The signal: When attracted, people unconsciously mirror each other's posture, gestures, and movements. It signals rapport and connection.
How to do it:
Note: Mirroring should be subtle. Obvious copying feels mocking. Let it happen naturally or with slight delay.
The signal: Open posture (uncrossed arms, facing forward, relaxed stance) signals receptiveness and attraction. Closed posture (crossed arms, turned away) signals the opposite.
How to do it:
The signal: Your face communicates emotion constantly. Smiles, raised eyebrows, and attentive expressions signal interest and warmth.
How to do it:
The across-the-room flirt:
The secret signal:
The deliberate closeness:
The lingering touch:
The interruption touch:
Body language is a two-way street. Here's how to read what your partner is communicating.
Signs of interest and attraction:
Signs of disinterest or disconnection:
Important: Look for clusters of signals, not single cues. One crossed arm might mean they're cold. Multiple closed-off signals together tell a clearer story.
In public:
At home:
During intimacy:
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Key attraction signals include: sustained eye contact, leaning in toward someone, mirroring their movements, touching your face or hair, open body posture (uncrossed arms), pointing feet toward them, finding excuses to touch, and dilated pupils.
Even in established relationships, body language matters. Make deliberate eye contact, touch them as you walk by, sit close when you could sit far, lean in during conversations, and show physical attention in public. Don't let familiarity turn into physical distance.
Eye contact is considered the most important. Sustained eye contact (3-5 seconds) signals interest and creates intimacy. Combined with a smile, it's the most universal flirting signal. Touch is a close second, as it moves from visual flirting to physical connection.
Look for clusters of signals rather than single cues. Interested body language includes: facing you, leaning in, uncrossed arms, active eye contact, and physical closeness. Disinterested signals include: facing away, crossed arms, avoiding eye contact, and creating physical distance.
Absolutely. Non-verbal communication creates connection before words are spoken. Deliberate touching, eye contact during intimacy, open and receptive body positioning, and physical responsiveness all deepen intimate experiences beyond what words alone can achieve.
Studies suggest that 60-90% of communication is non-verbal. Your body language tells your partner how you feel about them constantly, whether you intend it or not. Positive body language reinforces love and attraction; negative body language creates distance.
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